What to do when he has a new girlfriend

The inevitable happens, people move on and get into new relationships. But I never expected it would hurt so much to see pictures of them. I always had the mindset that if he got together with someone else, I would be fine because it's his loss not to be with me. But nothing prepares you for the blow of it actually happening.

But it made me realize that he was just a liar. Refusing to admit there was another girl involved, promising that he wouldn't get into another relationship for a few years because he wanted to focus on his career. All bullshit.

Part of me wants to shout at him. Wants to tell him 'i knew it' but I refuse to give him the satisfaction of knowing that it affects me. Refuse to let him enjoy the tiniest bit of ego boost. I almost want to post pictures and let the whole world know the identity of this spoke of fellow. But I refuse to give him the slightest bit of fame from the 10 people who currently read this blog.

I can only say that I now truly see him for who he really is and wish him to marry that baby loving girl and lead a happy life. Please don't ever let me see your face again. I might be drastic. I will work hard and be better than anything you'll ever know.

3 tips for girls hurting after finding out he has moved on.

1. He has decided to be with someone else so stop waiting for him to come back.
Don't let him get the satisfaction of being wanted by more than one girl. You will just look pathetic. Being confident makes you attractive and will lead you to meet the next prince.

2. Enjoy your freedom from that guy. He is not worth your time, effort or thoughts. Do something nice off yourself like getting a manicure.

3. Call up a good friend. Preferably a her. Tell her your situation and make sure she stops you from doing anything foolish like call him.

I was so close to calling him up to scream or logging into his facebook account to see what's going on. But I know I don't want to sink so low.

For those ladies out there suffering, you are not alone. We are strong women and will get through this. The real prince is waiting.

Clearing out things that remind you of him

If i could, I'd throw away/donate every piece of clothing I wore when I was with him, I'd get rid of every single piece of furniture we had contact with together, blow up all the places we've ever been to. But that's not always possible right.

So many things can remind you of the person that you loved so much but broke your heart. It is often the little objects, meaningful things that don't even cost much that hurt you so much to look at. I've not been thorough in getting rid of stuff that belong to him and presents he gave me. So yesterday, as I was clearing my room, I found this

I believe the best way to heal your broken heart is to do whatever feels right for you. If you'll feel better burning all the clothes he left in your house, do it. If you need to stick pins in a voodoo doll, do it. If you need to write a hate letter and tear it up, do it. 

While I handed the presents he gave me to the garbage man, I forgot about this key holder that I bought for both of us. Mine was pink and his was blue. Yupp I can say byebye to it now. Just needed to look at it, feel the emotions and then move on. 

I like to think that our emotions are kept in the objects around us. So the emotions you have towards a person is held partly in the items related to that person. So as much as i think it's a very pretty bling keychain, I'm gonna bin it and bin the feelings of holding on/ waiting for him. 

I still keep some things from our relationship that I'm not ready to give up yet. But that's ok. 

Do you still own anything that reminds you of him/her but feel more ready to get rid of now ? If you answered Yes, go do it now !