Number 1 men flaw: indecisiveness

Bunny Breakup shares tips on how to be more decisive and score more dates with the ladies 

Guys can be so indecisive ! Why can't they be more proactive ? I'm not referring to the facial care products for goodness sake. I know they mean it with good intentions but really, we want a man who will sweep us off our feet with his manly decisiveness. (but give in to us if we suggest a change of plans at the last minute)

Classic scenario:
Man:"want to catch a movie with me?"
Lady:"ummmmm................... (doesn't know how to answer)"

See the problem ? He is not suggesting the movie, when, or what time. FAIL FAIL FAIL. They think that they are giving the woman the choice with that 'I am fine with anything' mentality'. *faints* Or maybe he's hoping to get a conversation going about what types of movie she likes. These kind of men are long-winded and boring.

Girls like to see that a man can make decisions in life. If he can't even decide on a simple thing like which movie to bring her to and needs her to make all the choices, how is he ever going to be a stable husband? (which is really what we are looking for in a relationship right, a man that we can spend the rest of our lives with).
Indecisive = unstable = cannot be trusted

Maybe this boils down to the fundamental issue of the way men communicate. Some men are clear of what they want and some are undecided. This is reflected in the way you ask someone out on a date.

Bunny Breakup advice: BE SPECIFIC. The more specific, the easier it will be for her to accept or reject your offer, or suggest some alternatives. You want to make it as simple as possible for her to go on a date with you (especially if she is not head-over-heels in love, yet).

Suggested scenario: 
Man: "Want to catch Black Swan with me on Tuesday at Plaza Singapura at 7pm?"
Lady:"I'm free on Tuesday. OK" or "I've already watched Black Swan, How about 127 Hours instead?" or "I'm not free on Tuesday, how about Wednesday same time?" or "Sorry I don't want to watch a movie this week, lets have dinner instead" 

All much more positive responses from her :) You get to learn if she likes the same movies as you and which day is good to meet her.
Unless she responds with "No I'm not interested in going out with you" (ouch) at least she's given you a swift rejection and you can go spend your time and effort asking someone else instead.

Don't treat this as a stab at your ego. I honestly want men to be better at asking women out. Do try it out and see if it makes a difference. No harm trying everything once right.

Let me know if it has helped !

Had A Shocking Breakup ? Understanding the loss of a relationship to move on

Are u finding it hard to move on after he/she ended the relationship?

 

Bunny Breakup advice: Understand the loss of your relationship to make sense of the breakup

Breaking up can make you behave irrationally. It might come as a shock if one day you're happy and hear him saying 'I love you' and the next he's telling you he's not the one for you. How does he change feelings within the short span of ONE DAY ?! Especially when you didn't think anything was wrong. 

Or you could be the one initiating the breakup. You might have used cheesy breakup lines like 'It's not you, It's me' or 'I think you are a really great person and you deserve to be with someone better'. Truths dressed up in party dresses with tacky makeup. Urgghh. 

No matter if the relationship ended amicably or disastrously, you need to understand that you have suffered a loss. If not only the time and effort you spent in the relationship. And we all know that losing something or having something taken away from you results in feelings of shock, anger, hurt. Many people try to suppress these feelings, ignore it or even deny its existence. These are unhealthy ways of dealing with the breakup and always prevents you from moving on. 

Knowledge and acceptance are the tools in helping you to grieve the loss and move forward in life after breaking up. I compiled a list of things you lose after a breakup. 

1. A friend to confide in 

2. Identity as a couple

3. Companionship and shared experiences 

4. Support

5. Hopes and dreams together 

These may or may not have been pleasurable but losing someone in your life creates a vacuum where they used to be. 

What is the most important thing you lost after the breakup ?

mine was losing the ritual of wishing him goodnight before bedtime

The ALL-IMPORTANT first post

I've been pondering over how to phrase the first 'introductory' post of The Bunny Breakup Blog for a few days. Trying to find the right 'voice' and 'feel' and 'style' of writing. It has to be interesting, intriguing and thought provoking so that people would want to visit again, and Again, and AGain, and AGAIN.....

But i realised that the essence of this blog is about confidence, breaking barriers, getting out of the comfort zone and doing things you would never think you could do. And those were essentially the fears I had in trying to come up with the perfect 'first-post' that would set a good tone for the rest of this journey. What is 'perfect' anyway ? The pursuit of perfection destroyed Natalie Portman in the Black Swan (but that movie is a different discussion altogether).

So here goes ! I am announcing Bunny Breakup into this world !

I release any fears that people think that coming up with a new persona is stupid. I release my fears that no one will ever read my blog. I allow this blog to be wildly famous (even more popular than Xiaxue). I allow my opinions to matter and for people to take my advice in being treated well. I accept that popularity can spiral out of control and promise to try and stay true to myself in the process. I believe that I am special and unique and amazing and wonderful. I know there is much to learn in life and am willing to put in effort, determination and perservere till I succeed.

This blog is inspired by you. The countless girls I've seen treated badly by guys, waiting for a man who isn't sure what he wants, begging for him to take her back.

After breaking up, I saw all the flaws in the relationship, all the things he did/ didn't do I overlooked because of love, everything I put up with to keep us happy. My eyes could see clearer and the view looked brighter. Though we broke up, I don't see it as a 'failure', I think it was a learning experience that has helped me know better what I want in a relationship and what sort of tell-tale signs to look out for.

This blog is conversational, I want to hear about your stories, your experiences. I would like to be part of your grieving process. If would help get over him quicker and easier if you share. Don't keep it bottled up inside. I want to inspire anyone who is heartbroken and lost after a breakup. It could actually be the best thing in your life.

A lot of my knowledge and theories arise from watching movies, reading books, observing strangers in public, the internet and even stories from friends. I will not say that I know everything about relationships so if there is anything you'd like to share, do drop me an email at bunnybreakup@gmail.com

I'm excited to share this journey with you.

Ps: I love the banner I created and the cute strawberry background !