Had A Shocking Breakup ? Understanding the loss of a relationship to move on

Are u finding it hard to move on after he/she ended the relationship?

 

Bunny Breakup advice: Understand the loss of your relationship to make sense of the breakup

Breaking up can make you behave irrationally. It might come as a shock if one day you're happy and hear him saying 'I love you' and the next he's telling you he's not the one for you. How does he change feelings within the short span of ONE DAY ?! Especially when you didn't think anything was wrong. 

Or you could be the one initiating the breakup. You might have used cheesy breakup lines like 'It's not you, It's me' or 'I think you are a really great person and you deserve to be with someone better'. Truths dressed up in party dresses with tacky makeup. Urgghh. 

No matter if the relationship ended amicably or disastrously, you need to understand that you have suffered a loss. If not only the time and effort you spent in the relationship. And we all know that losing something or having something taken away from you results in feelings of shock, anger, hurt. Many people try to suppress these feelings, ignore it or even deny its existence. These are unhealthy ways of dealing with the breakup and always prevents you from moving on. 

Knowledge and acceptance are the tools in helping you to grieve the loss and move forward in life after breaking up. I compiled a list of things you lose after a breakup. 

1. A friend to confide in 

2. Identity as a couple

3. Companionship and shared experiences 

4. Support

5. Hopes and dreams together 

These may or may not have been pleasurable but losing someone in your life creates a vacuum where they used to be. 

What is the most important thing you lost after the breakup ?

mine was losing the ritual of wishing him goodnight before bedtime