Sunday, 27 February 2011

Number 1 men flaw: indecisiveness

Bunny Breakup shares tips on how to be more decisive and score more dates with the ladies 

Guys can be so indecisive ! Why can't they be more proactive ? I'm not referring to the facial care products for goodness sake. I know they mean it with good intentions but really, we want a man who will sweep us off our feet with his manly decisiveness. (but give in to us if we suggest a change of plans at the last minute)

Classic scenario:
Man:"want to catch a movie with me?"
Lady:"ummmmm................... (doesn't know how to answer)"

See the problem ? He is not suggesting the movie, when, or what time. FAIL FAIL FAIL. They think that they are giving the woman the choice with that 'I am fine with anything' mentality'. *faints* Or maybe he's hoping to get a conversation going about what types of movie she likes. These kind of men are long-winded and boring.

Girls like to see that a man can make decisions in life. If he can't even decide on a simple thing like which movie to bring her to and needs her to make all the choices, how is he ever going to be a stable husband? (which is really what we are looking for in a relationship right, a man that we can spend the rest of our lives with).
Indecisive = unstable = cannot be trusted

Maybe this boils down to the fundamental issue of the way men communicate. Some men are clear of what they want and some are undecided. This is reflected in the way you ask someone out on a date.

Bunny Breakup advice: BE SPECIFIC. The more specific, the easier it will be for her to accept or reject your offer, or suggest some alternatives. You want to make it as simple as possible for her to go on a date with you (especially if she is not head-over-heels in love, yet).

Suggested scenario: 
Man: "Want to catch Black Swan with me on Tuesday at Plaza Singapura at 7pm?"
Lady:"I'm free on Tuesday. OK" or "I've already watched Black Swan, How about 127 Hours instead?" or "I'm not free on Tuesday, how about Wednesday same time?" or "Sorry I don't want to watch a movie this week, lets have dinner instead" 

All much more positive responses from her :) You get to learn if she likes the same movies as you and which day is good to meet her.
Unless she responds with "No I'm not interested in going out with you" (ouch) at least she's given you a swift rejection and you can go spend your time and effort asking someone else instead.

Don't treat this as a stab at your ego. I honestly want men to be better at asking women out. Do try it out and see if it makes a difference. No harm trying everything once right.

Let me know if it has helped !

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