Turtles live long lives and have great wisdom !
I'm talking about the analogy used by Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly-Hunt at http://gettingtheloveyouwant.com/
The turtle and the hailstorm refers to the 2 different ways of dealing with conflict in a relationship. I believe that each party takes on one of the roles and instinctively reacts in a certain way, but can learn to be more balanced and exhibit the other qualities so that the couple can resolve disagreements better.
The turtle hides in the shell.
Silent. Pensieve. Alone. Avoids confrontation.
The hailstorm wants to be heard.
Speaks up. Expresses. Wants discussion.
I am the typical turtle. My instinctive reaction is to keep quiet, try to figure things out on my own, cry when i'm alone and wait till i figure out my emotions to have a discussion. I seldom meet conflict head on, choosing to avoid it and not kick up a fuss until I really have to. So i constantly have to be aware when I do this and consciously speak up with courage about how i'm actually feeling and why i feel this way.
I've learnt alot about communicating honestly during an argument since the breakup and I'm so proud of myself for being more confident and able to express myself.
This is for everyone who has ever fell in love, fell out of love, still believes in love.
After a breakup is the best time to work on the most important relationship- with YOURSELF. Beautiful, confident and smart.
Bouncing back from heartbreak. Let's go on a journey together !
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